stop caring what other people think

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NK-rIVi4nLI
video by Mark Manson, the same author of the subtle art of not giving a fuck

caring what other people think is a good survival mechanism.
we as humans developed and survived bc we socialize. living in tribes getting kicked out of the tribe literally means death, that is why social rejection hurts and is traumatizing.

in modern life you can now choose your own tribe.
you can choose who you want to impress.
if you get kicked out of a tribe you can choose another better one

you will always crave social validation. But you can change who you seek that validation from.

when
if you care too much what other people think, you need something more important to care about. find something

I myself believing that I am cool is more important than other people believing that I am cool.

you will stop caring what other poeple think about you when you have something in your life that's more important than what other people think.